There are troubling patterns that threaten our progress and unity as Black people. Observations reveal that some members of the Black community often exhibit tendencies rooted in envy, jealousy, me and melo, a tendency to expect failure among successful individuals.

These attitudes can manifest in undermining those who excel, hoping that their success will bring them down, or end soon. Additionally, a pervasive negativity around relationships, marriage, and career success, where even happy couples are viewed with suspicion or are expected to fall apart, get divorced soon, or successful career persons are expected to lose it soon, paints a concerning picture of our collective mindset.

Understanding the Roots of These Attitudes

Such behaviours are often driven by deeper issues—historical and social. Marginalisation, systemic barriers, timidity, and unfulfilled aspirations can foster feelings of inadequacy and resentment towards others, many you don’t even know.

When individuals see others thriving, it can sometimes trigger envy rather than inspiration, especially if they feel they lack opportunities or validation. This mindset nurtures a culture of distrust and bitterness instead of support and collective upliftment.

Moreover, the tendency to expect failure from success displays a lack of faith in oneself and others. It discourages ambition and promotes a cycle of negativity that hampers community growth.

Negative attitudes towards relationships, where happiness is undermined by suspicion or expectation of divorce, heartbreak, reflect unresolved emotional pain and societal influences that corrupt genuine connection and love.

The Impact on Our Future

If these attitudes persist, they threaten to trap our community in stagnation. Envy and jealousy drain energy that could otherwise be utilised for personal development and communal progress. They foster a toxic environment where success is met with suspicion and happiness is distrusted, undermining the very fabric of unity.

Overcoming these destructive mindsets is essential. We must recognise that success, happiness, and love are not threats but opportunities for collective growth. Celebrating achievements, supporting one another, and cultivating a mindset of abundance rather than scarcity can change the narrative.

A Call for Change

Black people around the world have shown resilience, creativity, and strength. It is time to shift from a mindset of envy, self, and suspicion to one of pride, support, and mutual upliftment.

We should encourage each other to dream bigger, support genuine success, and build relationships based on trust and love, and not tear each other down.

We must desist from attitudes that breed division and instead embrace a future where unity, positivity, and collective progress are the norm. Only by changing our mindset can we create a community that truly thrives—where success is celebrated, happiness is shared, and love prevails.

Let us reflect on our attitudes and commit to fostering a culture of encouragement, support, and genuine joy for the successes of others. Our future depends on it.

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